There is no such thing as the perfect mother
A weird and paradoxical symptom of post-natal depression is the guilt that you are being a bad mother. Stop wanting to be a perfect mother and aim instead to be a "good enough mother". Try to let the housework go a little...it really doesn't matter. And children do not need homemade organic food every day either. Tell yourself what a great mum you are. All the evidence shows that mothers with post-natal illness are at least as good at mothering as those without. The fact that you feel guilty shows your love for your child. Keep a secret notebook or diary and write the things you do each day that make you a good mum, just the little things like cuddling, kissing, feeding, playing. Remember these little moments and write them down. Read back every so often and you will be amazed how many "good mother " moments there are.
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